We have been naturally selected to use fight, flight, freeze, or get help responses when we feel threatened. That fourth one is often overlooked and underutilized. When we choose an ineffective strategy such as “flighting” or avoiding our taxes we experience the pain of that poor selection, namely in the form of a visit from the IRS. When we choose and utilize a skill well we experience a decrease in distress and an increase in self efficacy. We pay our taxes and move on